Too nice?

I'm sick of hearing all this bullshit about women not liking guys who are "too nice". It's a lie guys tell themselves when they get rejected and a lie women say when they don't want to say "too dumb" or "too immature" or a myriad of other more accurate but abstract reasons. We think saying "he was too nice" is saying "I had a guy who treated me really well because I'm great and I deserve that but I wanted more mystery and romance" but it sends the message that it's ok to date an asshole as long as the drama is juicy enough.

We feel guilty for saying "I was just not attracted to him" because the response is usually "but he was sooo good looking" or "you were so good together" it feels shallow but it's not. The person who feels right and gives you enough energy to get out of bed in the morning is the person you should "settle" for and it'll feel amazing.

Anyway Strictly Sexual is great movie.

P.S guys, "nice" might also mean "he didn't have an opinion", "he was agreeable to the point of being fake"...etc. it never means "he treated me too well, I want someone more abusive"

Wish I had something intellectual to say but...

In 5 years time I hope to be nowhere near where I am now. I want to make something of myself that doesn't include a marriage, kids or a mortgage. I want my art to be displayed in galleries, my books to be published, my comic books read. I want to make a difference in the way people think. I want to have a hand in stopping racism and homophobia and be the person my friends can lean on for support.

The problem is it's hard to justify not wanting a family or security to my family (sometimes even to my friends). Believing in your art is difficult when you don't have the courage to believe in yourself and friendships are far more complicated than that.

I just wish I wasn't so shy, but I'm working on it (all of it).